So I was wondering with the break down of morals and values in the society ,I thought why not talk about how to be a lady perhaps a few could benefit from it and pass on the touch to a next few .
As manners, attitudes, and styles of dress change over time, so has the conventional understanding of what it means to be a “lady.” A lady should exude elegance, courteousness, and a sense of respect toward oneself and others. I have put together a few tips I think should benefit you greatly.
Make introductions. If you are talking to one person and another person approaches, introduce the person you were initially talking to the person who has just arrived.
In the business world, the order in which introductions are made depends on a person’s level of “importance;” in other words, on his or her level of seniority within the company. In such an example, you would first introduce the person of higher importance to the person of lesser importance, and then vice versa
Remember that the client is always of the highest seniority, regardless of his or her title.
Add a thoughtful detail about the person you are introducing, when possible. Rather than just stating the person’s name, also introduce his or her title, or how you know this person.
Say please and thank you. While this may sound like an etiquette cliché, forgetting to say these things (even by accident) will not go unnoticed, and comes across as very rude.
Say thank you anytime somebody does you a favor, however big or small; it will show him or her that you appreciated it.
Always thank a host/hostess after attending a party or other special occasion at his or her home. Consider sending a “thank you” text, phone call, or email the following day.
Always thank people for gifts they have given you. You may want to consider writing the person a note thanking them.
Don’t abuse the words “please” and “thank you.” Using them excessively will devoid them of their meaning, and make you appear weak.
Know when to say no. Being polite doesn’t mean being passive and letting others take advantage of you. It is important to learn how to politely tell people no. Please say it assertively and mean it .
If somebody offers you alcohol or a cigarette and you are not interested, then kindly thank the person and refuse. Giving in against your will sends the impression that you are easily impressionable.
Similarly, if a man is attempting to “pick you up” or is getting physically aggressive with you, then stand up for yourself and tell him to back off. If necessary, call or ask for help. I can tell you that it’s okay it also scream for help .
Educate yourself. A lady is eloquent and can carry a conversation. This requires being well-read and staying up-to-date on the current events of the world. While this doesn’t necessarily require formal education, attaining the highest possible level of education that you can will be to your benefit. Be deliberate about self development .
If you are not enrolled in school, then find alternative ways to educate yourself. Read plenty of books (both fiction and non-fiction), read the news, and attend seminars and/or discussions.
Have good posture. Standing and sitting up straight are signs of a true lady. As an added bonus, having good posture is better for your back, and will help strengthen up your core! It will take some training to get used to this, especially if you are accustomed to slouching.
Be respectful toward others. Being a lady isn’t just about looking or behaving properly on the outside; it involves being a good person on the inside.
When talking to another person, give him or her your undivided attention. It is polite, and will make for a more stimulating conversation for both parties.Don’t interrupt or talk over others.
Be charming. A true lady doesn’t just sit there quietly and let the world pass her by. She engages with other people, carries stimulating conversations, and is a subtle flirt.
Don’t overeat or drink excessively.Being a lady requires having self-control and both of these activities are examples of overindulgence.
Be respectful when visiting others’ homes. When you are a guest in somebody else’s home, allow the host/hostess to tell you where to sit, where to leave your purse, whether or not to take off your shoes.
Stay calm, cool, and collected.Avoiding lashing out at others if you are annoyed, angry, or upset. Remain poised, and handle the situation rationally and calmly. This will prevent you from doing or saying things in the heat of the moment that you will regret later.
Dressing Like a Lady
Maintain your personal hygiene. This will keep you looking and smelling your best, and more importantly, prevent infections , other illnesses & Shower daily.
Brush your teeth & wear deodant. Smelling your best is just as important as looking your best.
Dress elegantly. This means dressing appropriately for the occasion, your body type, and your age. Use your best judgment to determine what clothes are most appropriate for you.
To be a lady is an ongoing act it actually never ends, you grow at it daily. You will feel good about yourself and how you are living your life.
You will have inner peace and contentment. You will feel confident in any situation.
You will find it easier to get along with people and make friends. Other people will treat you well and with respect.
You will be knowledgeable about the world, adventurous and enjoy life. You will be refined, stylish and classy.
You will be able to attract good men, gentleman if you wish to marry and easily spot and avoid men who will treat you badly.
You don’t need to be so forcy about learning all the qualities and starting out all at once even I haven’t mastered them all. Do share with love once and stay tuned to another existing edition next week…. Until then yours truly Anu Adewunmi-Aloba….xoxo …Poise ,Beauty & amp; Style Column is brought to you by @anusignature . Follow me on IG & FB @anuadewunmialoba and also send me an email: firstname.lastname@example.org. Our give away starts soon fingers crossed.