This week, I wanted to talk the men, earlier this week I had a discussion with a young man who is struggling to understand what being a gentle man is about. It then occurred to me, why not write about it . A few people would benefit considerably from it.
Especially in a society where the ideals have been shifted and values are being thrown out of the window, it's not unusual to find that the scale of those you would consider gentlemen are getting smaller by the day.
Being a gentleman isn't a one-off thing, it's a life long journey, it's isn't a switch that comes on and off, it's a lifestyle, it's a timeless reality. You learn about it every day, you grow into it daily and imbibe the traits so it becomes part of your essence.
Trust me gentlemen are treated with utmost respect and regard. They simply in a class of there own. They sit and direct the affairs of men . They are in a class of there own. I have written o out some tips I know would blow your mind, enjoy!
Define Your Personal Style
Its all about attitude and how you carry yourself. Choose a personal style that reflects your personality and lifestyle. Don’t buy clothes you think you should fit, but those that actually sit well on you like a glove . How you dress you how you would be addressed, it's the one-off thing to work on to begin your day.
Keep Your Hygiene in Check
Put efforts into your appearance. Keep yourself clean, showered, and groomed. I like clean well put together men, trust me I speak for all women . Put an effort on your hygiene, develop a routine and stick to it.
Be a Grown-up
It’s now commonplace for potential employers to check out your social media profiles. You’ll also be hard-pressed to find a woman who won’t do the same before dating you. Be careful about how to portray yourself to the world because that's how they would see you.
Speak articulately and act same . Be professional with your words.Consider this a top priority if you want to be a gentleman. Not only will expanding your vocabulary make you stand out ,it would also give you a sit amongst professionals.
Connect With People
Say hello as you’re walking past a stranger. Let someone go in front of you in the grocery line. Make eye contact. Be approachable. It’s one of the best ways to open yourself up to new people, experiences, and professional connections.
To be a gentleman while you’re out, always remember it’s all about them. Be a good listener.
Find Your Purpose
Beyond a nice home and financial security, what do you want? What are you passionate about? What mark do you want to make? Define what you live for. Not only will you feel more fulfilled, it’ll lead to so much depth and substance your head will spin. I assure you it would give you something to look forward to everyday of your life.
Be Clear About What You Want
Not making a decision is a decision in itself, and it’s not a good one! If you want the respect of others, know what you want and what you don’t, and be clear about it. Knowing how to say no is one of the most well-respected things you can do for yourself. Let me put it bluntly be a man of honor . Let your word be your bound.
Hold the Door Open
Holding the door open for people is a gentleman’s calling card. It’s one of the most subtle yet powerful ways to show your consideration for others. It's also the most important way to say am finely finished and articulately groomed.
Keep Your Promises
A big part of being a gentleman is respecting others’ time and meaning what you say. If you say you’re going to meet someone at a specific time, don’t be late. When you tell someone you’re going to help them with something, help them.
When you promise you’ll have a project done by a certain date, meet your deadline.Not only will this build trust with those you care about, it will also help build self-trust, a crucial-yet-underrated form of trust when you’re a gentleman.
Return the Favor.
It’s all about the little things, both at work and at home. If a co-worker helped you setup a killer presentation, help them with their annual report. If your girlfriend picked up groceries, carry them in for her. Always make sure you’re helping enhance the lives of those you care about. Be a man of Value.
Pick Up After Yourself
Keeping a tidy office, home, and car will leave a good impression on anyone you meet. It shows you take yourself seriously, and take pride in what you’ve worked hard for. Some men are impossible ,like babies you still need tell them what to do,if you fall into this category stop it .
Our professional and personal lives are now fused together thanks to technology, so drop all that compartmentalizing and be authentic 24/7. Let your guard down and stop trying to look so glossy. What’s ironic about the art of being yourself is what makes you unique is usually what makes you self-conscious.
Being at ease with who you are is the sign of a true gentleman. Gentlemen don’t lie or mislead – they’re as comfortable with themselves as they want you to be. Being a gentleman never goes out of style – put these tips into practice and you’ll be well on your way to gentleman status.
The art of being a gentle man s sexy and it's something you should really aspire towards . It changes your ideal about life and you become a new all over.
I recommend you learn it , teach it to your kids and share with everyone you love .
On that note it's been fun this week , definitely teaching my son a few things .I remain yours truly ....Anu Adewunmi- Aloba. Keep your fingers crossed for our Q & A segment sponsored by Anu Signature brand . Thanks to all those who have written to us via email n social media...we would still love to read from you ... firstname.lastname@example.org ,IG & FB anuadewunmialoba.... kisses .. xoxo .