This
week, I wanted to talk the men, earlier this week I had a discussion with a
young man who is struggling to understand what being a gentle man is about. It
then occurred to me, why not write about it .
A few people would benefit considerably from it.
Especially
in a society where the ideals have been shifted and values are being thrown out
of the window, it's not unusual to find that the scale of those you would
consider gentlemen are getting smaller by the day.
Being
a gentleman isn't a one-off thing, it's a life long journey, it's isn't a switch
that comes on and off, it's a lifestyle, it's a timeless reality. You learn
about it every day, you grow into it daily and imbibe the traits so it becomes
part of your essence.
Trust me gentlemen are treated with utmost
respect and regard. They simply in a class of there own. They sit and direct the affairs of men .
They are in a class of there own. I have written o out some tips I know would
blow your mind, enjoy!
Define
Your Personal Style
Its
all about attitude and how you carry yourself. Choose a personal style
that reflects your personality and lifestyle. Don’t buy clothes you think
you should fit, but those that
actually sit well on you like a glove . How you dress you how you would
be addressed, it's the one-off thing to
work on to begin your day.
Keep
Your Hygiene in Check
Put
efforts into your appearance. Keep yourself clean, showered, and
groomed. I like clean well put together men, trust me I speak for all
women . Put an effort on your hygiene, develop a routine and stick to it.
Be
a Grown-up
It’s
now commonplace for potential employers to check out your social media
profiles. You’ll also be hard-pressed to find a woman who won’t do the same
before dating you. Be careful about how to portray yourself to the world because
that's how they would see you.
Keep
Language-PG-13
Speak
articulately and act same . Be professional with your words.Consider this a top
priority if you want to be a gentleman. Not only will expanding your vocabulary
make you stand out ,it would also give you a sit amongst professionals.
Connect
With People
Say
hello as you’re walking past a stranger. Let someone go in front of you in the
grocery line. Make eye contact. Be approachable. It’s one of the best ways
to open yourself up to new people, experiences, and professional connections.
To
be a gentleman while you’re out, always remember it’s all about them. Be a
good listener.
Find
Your Purpose
Beyond
a nice home and financial security, what do you want? What are you passionate
about? What mark do you want to make? Define what you live for. Not only
will you feel more fulfilled, it’ll lead to so much depth and substance your
head will spin. I assure you it would
give you something to look forward to everyday of your life.
Be
Clear About What You Want
Not
making a decision is a decision in itself, and it’s not a good one! If you
want the respect of others, know what you want and what you don’t, and be clear
about it. Knowing how to say no is one of the most well-respected things you
can do for yourself. Let me put it bluntly be a man of honor . Let your word be
your bound.
Hold
the Door Open
Holding
the door open for people is a gentleman’s calling card. It’s one of the most
subtle yet powerful ways to show your consideration for others. It's also the
most important way to say am finely finished and articulately groomed.
Keep
Your Promises
A
big part of being a gentleman is respecting others’ time and meaning what you
say. If you say you’re going to meet someone at a specific time, don’t be
late. When you tell someone you’re going to help them with something, help
them.
When
you promise you’ll have a project done by a certain date, meet your deadline.Not
only will this build trust with those you care about, it will also help build
self-trust, a crucial-yet-underrated form of trust when you’re a gentleman.
Return
the Favor.
It’s
all about the little things, both at work and at home. If a co-worker helped
you setup a killer presentation, help them with their annual report. If your
girlfriend picked up groceries, carry them in for her. Always make sure you’re
helping enhance the lives of those you care about. Be a man of Value.
Pick
Up After Yourself
Keeping
a tidy office, home, and car will leave a good impression on anyone you meet.
It shows you take yourself seriously, and take pride in what you’ve worked hard
for. Some men are impossible ,like babies you still need tell them what to
do,if you fall into this category stop it .
Be You
Our professional and personal lives are now
fused together thanks to technology, so drop all that compartmentalizing and be
authentic 24/7. Let your guard down and stop trying to look so glossy.
What’s ironic about the art of being yourself is what makes you unique is
usually what makes you self-conscious.
The flaws
The flaws
Being
at ease with who you are is the sign of a true gentleman. Gentlemen don’t lie
or mislead – they’re as comfortable with themselves as they want you to
be. Being a gentleman never goes out of style – put these tips into
practice and you’ll be well on your way to gentleman status.
The
art of being a gentle man s sexy and it's something you should really aspire
towards . It changes your ideal about life and you become a new all over.
I
recommend you learn it , teach it to your kids and share with everyone you love
.
On
that note it's been fun this week , definitely teaching my son a few things .I
remain yours truly ....Anu Adewunmi- Aloba.
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