BUILDING A STRONG PERSONALITY

Hi people ,so I thought why not write about building a strong personality as it’s the essence of todays competitive era, where only ones unique qualities can bring you to the top most category of successful bunch of people. So, to stand against the crowd one has to work on cultivating those special skills.

However, the individual’s eagerness and willingness to learn new things always proved boon in the self development criteria. There are some tips listed below that would important development skills that will help you build a strong personality and as said “the change starts with you”, so start preparing in order to face the world.

Get inspired each day: The very first self development skill is creating an inspirational room for your-self. This room will help provide you by providing the peace, where you can analyze yourself. The neat, clean and tidy room will boost up your positive energy levels and thus will motivate you in return. This motivation will further enhance your concentration and will result in shocking and amazing positivity in one’s life. However, the messy and untidy room will swing your mood from good to bad and will start de-motivating you. You could create a mental room through mediation if a physical one isn’t available.

Build on your strengths: Have you ever played football or any other sports in school ? Your teacher or trainer must have guided you with the line “practice makes a man perfect”. The phase is too old but the meaning is still fresh and still helps many individuals to strengthen their Self Development skills. Also, constantly working on your skills will give rise to the ability where an individual will become master of his or her unique skill. Am a fan of saying what you do consistently you tend to master and in no time become a pro at it . Practice makes perfect,guess what ,no shame in failing,keep at it.

Conquer your fear: The next pillar of skill development is to conquer your fears. It is a false statement that an individual is a fearless person in any situation. Each and every individual on this earth have some fears and this fear thus retards the overall personality development. Fear is a inherent part of self development, appreciate that you are scared but don’t let it consume you, still have a clear head enough to face it and do what needs to get done.

Come above your comfort zone: Next, the journey moves to the comfort zone. One should always look forward to work hard, leaving back all the comfort zones. If a farmer does not work hard, he will never be able to suppress the hunger of the people around the globe. So, one should work hard leaving back all the comforts. The hardships done leaving back the comfort will always result in fruitful success with a sweet taste of life. Also, leaving back the costly and vintage comfort will make you strong enough to face every twist of life. I put it simply if you can’t do the work then you can’t walk the walk . Quit the get rich quick scheme, sit down put in the effort n get work done.

Have a to-do-list handy: In order to complete all the tasks up to the mark, one should have a habit of maintaining a to-do list. This to do list enables the correct work to be done and also assures the maker to the list with on time completion of the task. Such list also reminds the performer about the quality and quantity of work to be done and assure that each and every work is done. This makes the life smooth and productive thus assuring your success in life. It’s like a daily road map that guides you closer to your goals.

It’s time to act: The easiest way to learn is by doing or performing the task. By performing the task one gets fully aware of the fact likes, how it is done? Which mechanism of action does this concept follows and all. Also being in action, guides you about all the other ways by which a task cannot be completed. It also gives rise to the positivity in one’s life that getting into action and keep on working will guarantee the success after some time.

Working on Negative qualities: The next most important way of self development is to take resolution about quitting bad habits. We all know that no one is perfect in this world. Everyone has some or the other habit that is bad and should be left behind along with the history. So, for self development, it’s very important that one should leave back bad habit, which may be like oversleeping, nail biting, smoking, late or delayed schedule, etc. It could get a bit difficult but it’s doable trust me.

My is …,I would leave you to guess but tell me yours .

Focusing on good habits: On the other hand, it is found that one should always look forward to develop new and good habits. These habits may be early to bed and early to raise, regular exercising, yoga habit, reading, etc. The development of these habits will return help you to build up a dashing and amazing personality. This reading habit will also widen you knowledge, where as the exercising and yoga habits will help your body to stay fit. Fuel the positive habits more than the negative,you get the drift .

Dealing with tough people: The next important point that accounts to self development is to learn the way of dealing with difficult people. Many a times, this situation arises before us that we are unable to deal with special category of people, who are really strict and inconvincible. These people may be easily found as peers, bosses and others. So, one should always learn the trick to convince them, so that an individual faces no problems at the workplace. Sometimes they actually have your interest at heart but you need learn to understand them as they are inevitable in your growth as a individual in life .

Try to learn new ways: For the self-development issue, one should also focus on finding numerous ways to face the day to day challenges that life puts in front of us. Hence, games play an important role; games like chess teach us the different self development techniques that can help us to win the game. Similarly, these tricks can also be applied in our lives, for solving and dissolving few issues. I don’t particularly like chess but you find what works for you.

Meditation: The very common and easy way to flush out tension from your life is to meditate. The meditation will cool and sooth the nervous system of your body and thus liberating the inner peace. This inner peace further acts on the brain and helps in lowering the blood flow across the body, flushing out tension. The act of meditation is very similar to kill two birds with a single stone. Firstly, it ends tensions and secondly, it helps in increasing the concentration and focusing power of an individual, which is very important for self development. I will write extensively on this topic but for now ,do try it out . It’s the best receipe to self cleansing.

Be with good company: A good company always boosts you with positivity and guides you towards right path. The discipline and other good qualities are easily acquired being in good company. You will also learn many good tips about way of presentation, speech delivery, negative energy drains you,run away from them .

Accept what’s gone is gone: we often see people around us regretting for the things that they have performed in the past, in the form of mistakes, commitments, etc. which harm the self development habit of an individual in some or the other way.

How about a holiday: We all know that over time working and increased efficiency of work task can result tired and lazy body. Hence, it is very necessary to rest the machine, the human body, to maintain its proficiency. So, how about a break from the same, boring and tiring schedule? An individual can plan a small trip or holiday to please the body and refresh the mind, which in turn will automatically increase the graph the output that is being liberated by our body. Believe me, it always works. I need a vacation right now. Find time to take one.

Cultivate a new hobby: The desire is very necessary for the human body, as it maintains the neural functions in our body. Hence, one should always look forward to learn new things, it may be painting, pottery, reading, and all, which will a help an individual to widen the physical, emotional and mental aspects of his or her own personality. Not only this, it will also help you in working on things that will raise your inner happiness and a stress free life. I am working on learning a new hobby,I haven’t quite figured it out yet .

Workout- schedule: A good personality is also judged by the physical body structure; hence it is the duty of an individual to work on the issues related to the one’s physic. Also, tuning up your body more attractive it is necessary for have a 15 minutes jog trice a week mixed up with the other colors of exercising like gyming or swimming. This will shape up your body and will also increase the stamina of an individual. Personally I love to take very long walks ,I have walked from Maryland to Gbagada many times . It’s clears my head completely and i feel new after ever session. Find what works for you and stick to it.

Find a good opponent: In order to taste the actual success in life, it is very necessary to compete; and the feeling of competition arises when we face a strong and independent foe. This will result in a very healthy comparison and will also push forward an individual to perform its best, bring out all the hidden capabilities. Thus, helping an individual to develop his personality. I love competition,it’s like food to the soul , but I recommend be your strongest competition.

Choose an ideal personality: We often meet some people in life who leave a very deep impression on our mind and soul. And we admire that personality. These pleasing personalities have some or the other quality that we like the most, hence, it’s our duty to follow the league of our ideals in order to achieve great heights of self development in our life. I love and admire certain people and l look to them to be a better version of me all the time . Oprah tops my list, find yours.

Commitment to the growth: One should always look forward to commitment, which is a part of self development programs. A commitment reflects the changes that we are ready to absorb in our life, it may to follow a fixed schedule or to give time to things that really pleases you and keeps you happy.

Write a letter to your future: We often decide a platform, which we will be obtaining after some years, so how about writing a letter to the future self? It is definitely an adventurous task, because while writing, to the future self, an individual will have to account all the ideal qualities that an individual wants to have in him. Thus, resulting in an inspiration to develop that particular level of personality. To write this letter helps you to prepare for your future,mine is to be a voice of my generation and driver of change .

Feedbacks: Feedbacks assures an individual about the change that he had grasp within himself. It acknowledges an individual with the correct intensity of change along with its measurable degree. This, thus ensure the positivity and right direction of change in the personality. Lastly, it is very essential step that needs to be followed by all most everyone to figure the actual change that took place while self development process. Understand that some feed backs would hurt you,but listen to the message and work on becoming a better you.

In conclusion,I say Rome wasn’t built in a day ,so take the steps one at a time and in it’s stride gradually. You have to make a resolve with your self to improve as it is a life time journey. Breathe and enjoy the new you as notice fundamental changes to your being and don’t forget to share the new tips with family and friends.

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